Moving to a new neighborhood with children can be a challenge all on its own, but moving across state lines? Whether you’re hiring moving companies or doing it yourself, that’s a whole other ball of wax! That’s a whole other ball of wax! Sooner or later many families face the possibility of moving, and as disruptive as it can be, moving does open up a whole new chapter in a family’s life. Many parents dread such a transition, but despite some very significant and very real challenges, there are some steps to make the whole thing a lot easier for everyone involved.
Everyone in the family, especially the kids, thrive on routine and familiarity. Throw a kink in that wheel and all sorts of things can go haywire. So, when parents are considering a move, they need to weigh the benefits of that change against the established comfort and routine that the family already has. Is it worth it? Is it necessary? Will the stress of the move eventually lead to bigger and better things? If there has been a recent stressful event such as a death or divorce, parents may want to postpone the move, simply to allow everyone to adjust to the change. However, sometimes the decision to move is out of one’s hands, perhaps due to financial issues or a job transfer. Even so, it is important to keep a positive attitude since mom and dad’s mood can drastically affect their children.
Getting the kids involved
Kids like to feel like they are a part of things, so discuss the move with them right from the start. Keeping them in the loop also helps to minimize stress and prepare the kids for the upcoming changes that come with moving to a new house, neighborhood, and school. Always answer questions honestly and completely and be receptive to both negative and positive reactions that they may have. Remember, moving always affects everyone – even the pets. Involving children in the planning of the move as much as possible is always a good way to make them realize that they really matter. When moving across state lines, it isn’t always easy to take the kids to see the new house before moving day, so instead provide them with as much information about the new house, city, and state as possible. Make it a fun, learning experience and let them think of ways that the whole family can learn about their future home.
General things to remember
Aside from dealing with the kids and reducing stress, there are a lot of other factors involved in moving an entire family. With school-aged children, it is important to get all the paperwork ready so that enrolling in the new school will be as seamless as possible. Don’t forget to also bring copies of medical records, when necessary! Make a folder or use a large envelope to keep all the important papers in one, safe place – and keep this folder during the move.
The timing of the move must also be considered. It might be easier on the whole family to move during the summer months when school is out, rather than to pack up and leave in the middle of the academic year. However, timing can’t always be perfect, so consider temporary accommodations such as an apartment or hotel. Also consider storage units if the house won’t be ready by the time everyone arrives and you have to safely store your treasured possessions.
Just remember, the key to a successful move is preparation and clear communication. When families work together, consider everyone’s thoughts and feelings, and plan accordingly, most moves – even across state lines – can be less stressful and successful!
Are you thinking of moving across states with your family?